(Part Seven of Seven)
Let’s just dive straight into the question we’ve been avoiding during this leaving process… Now what?
The kids are moving on with their lives, stumbling and bumbling along making their own way. And truth be told, so must we. We start over in a brand new world and we have to make our way as well. We wrestle with our irrational thoughts and emotions as they take us on a giant roller coaster…
I’m happy for them, they’re growing up. I’m sad for me because I miss them.
I’m happy I don’t have to cook dinner. I’m sad because my house is so quiet.
I’m delighted I can finally do my own thing. I’ve got nothing to do.
I’m glad they’re not calling my name every minute. I’m useless.
I’ve been waiting for this. I want to turn back time.
I’m happy that every day is not scheduled to the max. I don’t know what to do.
It’s exciting. It’s heartbreaking.
I love this. I hate it.
Allow yourself some time to grieve and process the loss. Give yourself plenty of mercy and grace. It’s a big change. Time for transition is needed. Just check yourself that you are not wallowing and getting stuck for too long. At some point, stand up and proclaim,
“I have decided I am ready to move forward!”
And while you are standing there, full of resolve, ponder these questions;
What is the one thing I love to do more than anything else?
Where in my life do I have the most impact?
What relationships do I want to foster?
Where am I a leader in my life?
When was the last time I tried something new?
What was my favorite thing to do in my youth and how can I have some of that now?
What are my top values?
What is the one thing I’ve been wanting to learn?
What’s the boldest, scariest, yet most exciting thing I could do right now?
What will be my legacy?
Who am I at this moment in time and who do I want to become?
I encourage you to actually take the time to write out these answers for yourself in a judgement free zone. It’s one thing to read them and say, yea I should think about that. And quite another to put the time into really exploring what these questions bring forth.
After you’ve finished answering these, look back over them, and decide to take action in one area. Commit to starting something today or at least this week. Don’t worry if you don’t have things all planned out. Just take a step. One step will inform the next and the next and so on. The more you dive in, the more energy you’ll get around it, and more opportunities will start showing up. It’s like magic.
And this is how you start your new season. Step by step is how it goes, and before you know it, you are fulfilled in your new life, and making a difference once again.
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